One author said there are roughly 3 love stages of development: "just at the beginning, we fall in love with many people at first sight; then be in love with some person, finally only live to old age in conjugal bliss with one person. But in reality a lot of people on the contrary, when they are young, they want to grow old with anyone. Now when they are old, they fall in love with anybody at first sight".
And today, some children from junior high school or even primary schools begin to fall in love, but they more go through their own early love experience in the suggestion of close friends advised that. Due to immature mind, in the face of all sorts of love problems they are at a loss. So, want to love and can love even being able to love, are different things.
From personal career development point of view, the love in university time is best stage of "falling in love with many people at first sight ". During this period, their life begins to be independent of parents, begin to learn to responsible for themselves, and begin to have free time with heterosexual contacts, so this period is a very good opportunity to train the love ability.
A master said: "wisdom is to eat in eating time and to sleep in sleeping time." If love is the homework we cannot escape in life, people who struggle in and make a harvest will be more mature in mind and love view will also be clearer. Earlier in the university to form their own love view, and promote the ability to love, this for college students should be a blessing. And love class is a very useful supplement. If the future course can be really like what article said: "the enlightenment and participatory teaching methods, let the student in the teaching process, comprehend from the experience and understanding and master psychological adjustment theories and methods", I believe it will have a lot of help for college students.
From this thing also can see, positive psychology began to enter the campus, really help students ascend happiness ability. Obtain happiness Perhaps this is inspirited by "Harvard happiness lessons".
Today, in China there are more and more books about happiness, the video about Harvard happiness lessons have already settle Sina, NetEase, etc, the people of vision has transferred from "successful learning" to "happiness learning", from the pursuit of material to enjoy the happiness, changed to pursue the heart happiness, from a social designed life to a life in his own design.
In future, I hope to become the required courses in the university as soon as possible, which let more people can get better growth in love and harvest happiness.
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